When thinking about our firsts in love we tend to get a reminiscent, nostalgic, happy, loving or sad feeling. These five firsts in love, like the first kiss, greatly shape who we will become from that point on. It’s important to store these memories in your head because one day you will be happy that you can look back at them, especially if they were happy ones. And even if not, they for sure made you grow.
The First Kiss
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A first kiss can be whatever you make of it: A peck in kindergarten when the educators weren’t looking, a smooch at a party or a shy kiss between you and your romantic interest. It’s the kiss that you were excited or bummed about. It may be sloppy and certainly not perfect, but the first smooch is always something to remember.
The First Fight
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The first-ever big argument hurts. You are both hurt, both trying your best, both unable to make the first move. Sometimes first fights can resolve in a breakup, sometimes they strengthen the bond. It’s the fight you feel the saddest about when looking back.
First Doubt
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You’ve been together for some time and then someday, some doubts creep in. There are so many reasons to be doubtful, whether you are asking yourself if you are compatible or if you have simply fallen out of love. Maybe you sense that something awful going on behind your back or one of you has other plans. It is heart-wrenching.
First Breakup
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This one is sad. Torn inside and broken you will soon learn that you need to take good care of your heart. Slowly you will pick up all the pieces, one by one and put them back together, you fill in the holes where pieces are missing. And someday, you become whole again.
First Love
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First love is not only about making out and having all your firsts. It is about learning boundaries, yours and those of others. It will teach you respect and how to compromise, what it feels like to want to give someone the entire world. I hope that you can look back with a smile and can say “It wasn’t perfect… but it was love”.
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This post was previously published on MEDIUM.COM.
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