It's common for guys to think that looking younger is how they can stay attractive. They believe women don't want mature men.
If this is you, then you might be surprised to learn that the ideal age for men in online dating isn't 20, 30 or even 40. No – according to a 2018 study in the Journal of Science Advances… it's 50 years old!
Regardless of their age though, nobody wants to date someone who's sloppy and doesn't know how to take of themselves. So how can you age gracefully and with style?
In today's article, we're covering the ten key mistakes older guys make trying to look young.
- Refusing to embrace your age
- Still wearing that old baseball cap
- Getting stuck in a hair rut
- Partying like you're 20
- Still wearing running shoes
- Wearing the wrong jeans
- Still wearing graphic tees
- Wearing your shirt untucked
- Thinking you need a younger partner
- Obsessing over any one thing
Make sure to read to the end, because you'll also learn what that study found about the peak attractiveness age for women. Guys… it was brutal.
Mistake #1 Refusing To Embrace Your Age
Of all the mistakes older guys make trying to look young, refusing to embrace their age is the most common. Here's a better idea: embrace your age. Doesn't ‘I want to look young' feel a little depressing – like you're faking something?
Now how does it feel when you say, ‘I want to look strong… I want to look healthy… I want to look successful'?
Yep – those are all things you can truly be. Far more easily than many young guys who spend their nights drinking cheap beer and their days struggling to make rent.
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Mistake #2 Still Wearing That Baseball Cap
Yeah – it's time to STOP holding on to THAT hat.
Unless you're actually going to the game to support your team… it's time to upgrade your headwear.
Hot weather? Sun in your eyes? Look for a classic wide-brimmed hat like a straw Panama.
Cold weather? Try an insulated flat cap. You can even get one with flaps to cover your ears.
Mistake #3 Thinking That Haircut Still Makes You Look Young
Maybe you've been going to the same barber for years… maybe you haven't been to a barber for years.
Level up your hair game by going to the best stylist in your area.
Take some pride in your hair and have fun with a new style. If you've got longer hair try a shorter hairstyle to make your hair look thicker.
Mistake #4 Partying Like You're 20
Next mistake older guys make trying to look young? They try to keep up with those 20-year-olds – drinking and partying all night.
Guys – time is going to catch up with you. Your body needs more rest. If you want to look good, you've got to take care of yourself.
Mistake #5 Wearing Running Shoes To Look Young
The next mistake older guys make trying to look young? Wearing their running shoes everywhere.
That's not working for you.
Invest in some good casual footwear – like a simple white sneaker. Or if you're worried about dirt, go with a simple black.
For an extra touch of style look at different fabrics like suede or perforated leather.
Mistake #6 Wearing The Wrong Jeans For Your Age And Body Type
When you're in your 20s you're probably in great shape. You can get away with some weird-ass jean cuts without – well – making your ass look weird.
As you age your body naturally changes. You need to make sure that you're wearing jeans that work for your body type NOW.
For most older guys this is going to mean no skinny jeans – and definitely no baggy jeans.
You should probably skip the rhinestones on your back pockets too.
Mistake #7 Wearing Graphic Tees
Another of the classic mistakes older guys making trying to look young is wearing graphic tees.
If your tee has funny off-color sayings – ask yourself this. What's your real goal and message in life?
Are you trying to achieve greatness? Get that company off the ground? Become the best man you can be? Be a great father and set an example?
When you wear something like that – you are NOT sending the message you want to send.
Mistake #8 Wearing Your Shirt Untucked
Speaking of shirts – it's time to stop letting it all hang out. When you're young you might get away with it – but when you get older there are different expectations on you.
People expect you to understand when a shirt should be tucked in and when it should be worn untucked.
Dress shirts are designed to be tucked in. Casual button-downs CAN be worn untucked – but often look better tucked.
Shirts with a curved bottom hem are meant to be tucked in. Shirts with a straight bottom (like many polos) are meant to be untucked.
If you buy a shirt that's made to be worn untucked – you need to know if it's too long or too short.
Mistake #9 Thinking You Need A Younger Partner
Let's get back to that 2018 study on online dating. It found that men focus on one thing – age. Women focus on multiple variables.
So just how obsessed are men with getting a younger partner?
In an online dating study, the most attractive age for men was 50 – the most attractive age for women was 18.
Brutal, right? But that's what the research clearly showed.
Women are smarter. They realize: ‘If I want a mate who's actually going to work for me and what I'm looking for – I need to look at the whole picture.'
Mistake #10 Focusing Obsessively On ANY One Thing
Getting back to the first of the mistakes older guys make trying to look young. Rediscovering your youth shouldn't be your goal. Your goal is to look healthy and successful. But what does it mean to look successful?
Too many older guys are still thinking like they did in their youth – they're focusing obsessively on one thing.
You won't look successful if you obsess about your style and ignore the one thing you're always wearing – your body. Or if you obsess about your health and ignore the way you present yourself.
Take a step back – it's a bigger puzzle. It's multiple things.
You need to focus on your health, your appearance, your style, and the full picture of how you present yourself.
Conclusion – Turning Those Mistakes Into Wins
All right, gentlemen – so I've given you the list of mistakes you may have been making:
It's not always easy to follow a list of ‘don't's though. Let's turn these around into a list of things to DO instead:
- Try to look strong, healthy and successful
- Upgrade your headwear
- Take control of your hair
- Take care of your body
- Upgrade your casual shoes
- Get the best jeans fit for your body type
- Ditch graphic tees for casual button-downs
- Tuck your shirt in
- Stop chasing girls – start having relationships with women
- Focus on the whole picture – health, looks, & style
Get these right, and you'll notice that your age becomes an asset.
Women are attracted to you because of it, not in spite of it.
And instead of wanting to look young… you'll find that younger men look up to you.
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